Do we Fight?

42 Years has gone by fast. I don’t remember all the years, but the good, and some of the bad ones still stand out. Some years we struggled, and still do at times. The one thing that stays constant is us. Do we fight?

We do. It is mostly fussing at each other. When its over its over, and at times we laugh about how silly we were. Typically it is because, one of us misunderstood the other, or how to discipline our grown children. Generally its because we allowed someone outside of us, to dictate what, where, when, how and why? We both have very different personalities. I am extremely hot tempered, but I cool down as fast. Greg is very steady and even. He keeps me calm, when I get set to fly into a rage. He has a temper also, but his is very controled, and he can stay on a slow burn for days. Eventually we get to a point where we can talk about the problem but we have learned to give each other space, to let him be him, and me be me. We have also learned to agree to disagree. We have our own opinions. It doesn’t mean we don’t love each other, but we do respecet and value each others opinions. You don’t have to think alike. In fact I don’t reccommend it. You will agree on some things, and disagree on others. Talking it out when both of you are ready, brings at times a new understanding of each other, and a new point of view. Greg says, fighting to win doesn’t work in a marrigage ,or really in anything. So we fight to resolve. So will there be days you fight. Absolutely! But fight to resolve!